“I can’t do it, I won’t succeed anyway… It’s too complicated for me…
Parents often hear these words from children when challenged to try something new.
- The child does not believe in themselves,
- they don’t believe they can paint a picture,
- they don’t believe they can learn to ride a bike,
- they don’t believe they can win an Olympiad.
They look at their friends and classmates, see that someone else did better, and give up.
If a child does not believe in their own abilities, then every new thing seems unattainable. The first attempt becomes a test, and an unsuccessful result further lowers their self-esteem.
Low self-esteem in a child
The causes of low self-esteem can be various:
- physical flaws or constant humiliation by adults,
- failures that they are afraid to talk about because they will be punished,
- constant reminders that the child does not do things correctly,
- comparisons with others,
- financial problems in the family,
- aggressive behavior from adults
– all of this can lead to a lack of trust in themselves and their actions.
It is easy to lower a child’s self-esteem and take away their confidence if you associate their behavior with their personality. Failing to distinguish between the action and the child themselves.
For example, a child breaks a glass and the parent criticizes them, calling them clumsy, saying they have holes in their hands, and so on.
How to recognize low self-esteem in a child?
The child often says:
“I won’t solve the problem, I don’t know anything and I can’t do anything…
Don’t paint, I don’t have any talent…
Why should I learn to sing, I won’t manage it anyway…”
The child is passive, shy, insecure, withdrawn, and very sensitive. Their mood changes often, mostly to negative. Mistakes are a disaster for such a child; they blame themselves for them, focus on them, and “live” with the thought that they do everything wrong.
How to increase a child’s self-esteem and their belief in themselves?
The problem of a child’s low self-esteem is best addressed immediately. Self-confidence is the first step to a happy life in adulthood.
An aid in solving this problem is the Soroban® school – https://force.soroban.ua/ua/
Lessons are built on a proven methodology where the child moves toward their goal step by step,
- from simple to complex,
- with a gradual increase in difficulty,
- with support from a trainer,
- with motivational rewards,
- with error analysis,
- with conclusions when a mistake is made, and
- with emphasis on every achievement.
We purposefully work on self-confidence and belief in the child’s abilities throughout the entire 24 months of the course.
Within a month, the child can do something that their parents cannot, such as calculating a three-digit number at age 6 or reciting a poem while counting at the same time.
Within a few months, classmates and teachers are amazed at the positive changes in the Soroban students’ studies. They notice their desire to learn new things.
Soroban® School – training for self-confidence.
We help parents with the difficult task of parenting, and children to overcome their own insecurities and believe in their strengths.
At the end of the entire course, the child:
- Knows the value of success and victory
- Can learn from defeat and strive for victory
- Believes in themselves and their strengths
- Understands that behind every success lies hard work.
The goal of the Soroban® methodology is the development of the child’s brain.
And our course has long been more than just training in the skills of good memory, speed of thinking, attention, and concentration.
The course at the Soroban® School of Mental Arithmetic has become an aid in shaping the child’s character, their positive attitude toward the world, and their belief in themselves.
